Over the course of my life, I've been a "watcher" of interactions among human-beings. And based on my observations and experience it is innate of humans to demonstate a profound disrespect for humility.
My foremothers were all practitioners of "do unto others as you will have them do unto you (treat others like you want to be treated)." We were taught to never be arrogant because being arrogant in itself is disdainful and incendiary.
In observing human behavior from the sidelines of life, I noticed that in many instances that no matter how kind a person is to, considerate of, and/or patient with a scornfully arrogant (egotistical, conceited, haughty, superior, self-important, condescending, supercilious, disdainful, belittling, demeaning, egocentric, insensitive, careless of the feelings of others, inconsiderate, self-aggrandizing) individual, the arrogant individual presents as wholly intolerant and derisive of the good-natured person. I was pepetually baffled by such behavior until I began observing animals (the "law of the jungle").
Among animals, I noticed that if a humble, fearful, sick, old, weak, or injured animal failed to defend itself, its honor or position, it was disrespected, abused, or inevitably eradicated. And this is very much true as to how an arrogant individual behaves.
To the arrogant individual you are "weak" if you are humble and respectful. And is there better prey than the "humble?" No! There is none. A humble is a "feast" for the arrogant.
There is absolutely no reasoning with an arrogant individual. At all times, they must have someone to victimize in order to feed their narcissism. They are never wrong about anything. Rather, it is you who "made the mistake(s)...misunderstood what was said/failed to listen...cannot do/get it right...causes [all] the arguments...caused them to hurt/disrespect you, etc." And if you attempt to refute them in any manner or defend yourself against their scornful and incendiary accusations and remarks, they will make it an occupation to hurt and destroy you in a public manner--the more witnesses, the better. Believe me. I know. I've been a fight-back-at-any-cost victim of an arrogant individual.
The arrogant individual will hate you for having the wisdom and courage to tell them about their disparagement of you and/or others, or when they are wrong about something because to them they inherently do not make mistakes. They will repeatedly bring-up everything they ever thought you did stupid, wrong, or otherwise, and will never admit to the errors of their ways--or any character flaws they have. They honestly believe hurting you is helping "you see yourself for who you really are." They pretend there is nothing good about you, and will give you point-and-case, even going as far as to make-up situations/instances. And for Godsakes, to be in the crosshairs of an arrogant individual who is a pathological liar is an experience that is diabolical and life-changing in a not-go-good kind of way.
The arrogant individual is [sociopathic] cold, insensitive, and incapable of showing feelings towards others, but demand that you be sensitive to their demands while being humble and showing them that you revere them. No matter how often they are cruel to you, they expect you to endure it without rebelling or so much as "talking back to them;" and if you say anything in your defense, they accuse you of being confrontational and uncooperative.
They are experts a "flipping the script," i.e., after they, without provocation cause a scene, start a verbal or physical fight, or are heart-stopping insulting, they will try to convince you that you are the perpatrator, you caused the situation to happen when in reality, you said nothing or did nothing--you were just simply there as an unwilling victim of what occurred.
The arrogant individual will badger you with excruciating verbal abuse until they make you cry, run away, or [want to] physically attack. They "grandstand" and get an ardenaline-rush from verbally and emotionally vilifying their victim(s). And they never apologize for the horrid things they do and say--and you better not ever bring them up in the future. And they never remember any of the disgusting and unforgivable things they do and say--yet they remember every detail that ever made-up about you.
Please note that the possibility of the arrogant individual changing his/her demeaning ways is slim-to-none. However, over the course of my life, I've witnessed near-death experiences humble the arrogant and strengten the weak.
Just sharing!
Love, Saishe!
My brother. I've gone no contact. No apologies from him. Everything was a "misunderstanding." He's an Aquarius. Heartless, arrogant, and superficially charming. Got his Pisces girlfriend to pick a fight with me when my mother was out of the house at the hospital on her death bed. He used the opportunity to bring her (Pisces) crazy ass into the house to physically attack me then he taunts me after the incident. So true what you write. Speaking the truth shames the devil. Keep it up. I'm a Virgo btw.
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